Choosing a Harmonious Life: Simple Practices That Ended My Victim Mindset
How are you choosing to live?
You are what you do in a day
Even the smallest adjustments in your routine have an impact .
Choosing to Live a Harmonious Life
For a long time, a part of me was trapped in victim consciousness—stuck in stories of past trauma, both my own and from my family line. It was a familiar story I knew well.
Since 2017, I’ve been on a gentle spiral of healing. Each year I’ve felt lighter, brighter, and more hopeful. There were ups and downs, massive sheddings, profound psychedelic trips, ego deaths, heart connections, self-doubt, and fear of growth. It wasn’t a straight uphill journey. There were plot twists, heroes and villains (I played both), and moments of joy, laughter, and love.
The victim archetype is tricky. At surface level and zoomed out, it’s a path we choose. We can choose small-mindedness, defeat, numbing, scrolling—or we can reclaim our power. When we blame external circumstances, we give away our sovereignty and stay in victim consciousness. That’s why stories of people overcoming adversity are so inspiring.
Over the past year, I’ve done deep work: radical honesty with my heart and soul. I’m sharing this in hopes that the changes I’ve made can positively impact your journey too. They may seem simple, but don’t underestimate their power.
Simple Practices That Changed Everything
Daily walks (30 minutes, non-negotiable). First lap in silence: praying, talking to God, sharing my heart, dreams, and frustrations.
Proper hydration: 3L per day with Concentrace minerals and flower essences. Glowing skin, smooth digestion, feeling alive.
Sitting in silence: 5 minutes each morning with deep, slow breathing to check in with myself.
Journaling: “Journaling is like sending a DM to your soul.” Seven years of consistent practice to unravel thoughts and patterns.
Deleting social media apps from my phone. I now only use Instagram on my computer—reclaiming my time and focus.
Daily meditation via Insight Timer: 76-day streak. Some days 5 minutes, others 1 hour. I show up because it feels good.
Mindset Shifts That Freed Me
“Let them.” (From Mel Robbins’ book.) I stopped trying to control others’ thoughts, opinions, or lives. I focus only on my inner world.
Creator Mindset: The opposite of victim. I now create my thoughts, routines, how I dress, and how I interact. Deep ownership I had ignored for years.
Habits I Released
Overstuffing my day / overbooking myself to feel important. It was self-abandonment that left me exhausted. Now I value my time, say no, and set boundaries so I can show up present and loving.
Nervous System Support as a Non-Negotiable
Here are some of my favorite ways to support the Parasympathetic Nervous System…
• Humming, singing, vocal toning (5 minutes)
• Cold exposure (cold washcloth or face dunk)
• To Be Magnetic self-hypnosis (6 years strong—life-changing)
These small, consistent choices pulled me out of victim mode and into a calmer, brighter life. Healing isn’t always dramatic—it’s in the seemingly small daily decisions. Remember that consistency is one of the greatest forms of self care. Start with one thing today.
May you remember that you are the creator of your life and that you can consciously choose to transcend the victim.
